This is going to be a very long post.
I have a friend who has been seeing this guy since March 2012, nearly two years now.The first three months were good, he was nice to her and she fell in love. Then in the summer, he showed his true colours.
He yells at her, he controls her, he emotionally and verbally abuses her.
He told her she was fat and that she needs to lose weight. He tells her that she's a 6/10.
She lost her virginity to him and they are very sexually active. He ignores her phone calls, text messages, tries to ignore her at school.
They broke up several times, because he would dump her and then she would be crushed and beg for him back.
They were just friends with benefits for a while because he was trying to get with another girl.
Through all of this, I've been trying to tell my friend to leave him and FOR GOOD. The most she could last was a mere two days, then she would go running back to him, offering sex -- completely ignoring my pleads.
One time, he even bruised her because she was trying to get him to stay and he wouldn't so he pushed her to the ground.
Some days are good and some days are bad, she says.
He even had sex with a prostitute and had several intimate encounters with random girls at clubs whilst on vacation.
Right now, they are in this relationship where there is no label on it. She still loves him and is trying to love him past all his flaws and all the hate. Whereas he just has her there because he hasn't made any friends at university and she's kind of the only person he has other than his family.
For some odd reason, his Google account somehow got connected to her computer and she can view his history. He doesn't know this.
And she's really hurt because he spends a lot of time looking at pornography and pictures of other girls.
She's trying not to be clingy but to be honest, she really is. She calls him constantly, texts him constantly and tries to get him to let her come over to his house.
She is really upset when he doesn't reply or respond but she can see that it's because he's watching adult videos.
She gives so much, she always gives him so much and he continues to treat her like absolute CRAP yet she takes it because she can't imagine living without him.
I asked her if she's in this long-term and she says she doesn't know, she's just taking it one day at a time but for now, he's enough and that she can't be greedy and ask for more because he will get pissed.
I don't understand why she thinks she's being greedy for just merely RESPECTING herself. I have been trying to get her to leave him for so long and have failed so many times so I don't even bother because I know for sure it is going to fail. I told her to think about what she is getting out of this relationship though and if he's really worth this much hurt. I told her that her parents did not bring her into this world so that she could be treated like horsecrap by some perverted, abusive lunatic.
And now she won't reply me.
Can someone tell me what to do to help my friend? Why does she choose to stay with this scumbag?